It’s crazy to look back 5 years now and think of how bad the triggers from my husband’s affair were. I would do anything to escape the feelings that they caused. For me, it was pure rage. 0 to 100. RED. All I could see was red, and the feelings of fight or flight. The…
James 1:15 tells us, “After desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” Let’s face it. We live in a highly sensual and lust-driven world! A world filled with intense sexual desire and the need for immediate gratification. A strong and even excessive craving for some…
What are boundaries? Simply put. A boundary is a line that shouldn’t be crossed. Period. We set boundaries in marriage to protect ourselves and our relationships. Every relationship can have a different set of boundaries. Before an affair occurs, most people, including myself, don’t even know what a boundary is, let alone how to set…
Hope for a better tomorrow lightens the burden of today. Never stop believing. Tomorrow will be better than today. – Olufunke Kolapo Yesterday marked 5 years since I found out my husband was having an affair. It’s crazy because while it can still feel like yesterday, it also feels like it was a lifetime ago. I…
When faced with the aftermath of an affair, you may find yourself at a crossroads of whether to stay or leave. It’s during these moments that asking questions can be a way to guide you in whether or not you can rebuild trust with your partner. I remember having hundreds of questions for my spouse…
Infidelity is a topic that has troubled relationships for centuries, leaving deep scars and shattered trust in its aftermath. When a partner cheats, it can be devastating, and the question of whether a cheater can truly change often arises. Can someone who has betrayed their partner’s trust transform and become a better person? In this…
After discovering my husband’s affair, we immediately attended a counseling session with our therapist. I recall our counselor saying it was as if he wasn’t remorseful at all. He didn’t even seem to feel guilty or realize the extent of the damage and hurt he had caused. At the time I wasn’t aware of affair fog…
Did you know that your marriage can find healing after an affair? The answer is YES, IT CAN! My husband and I are a walking testimony of that. Five years later, and by hard work and the grace of God, I can say we are still standing. The love we have for each other is…