It’s crazy to look back 5 years now and think of how bad the triggers from my husband’s affair were. I would do anything to escape the feelings that they caused. For me, it was pure rage. 0 to 100. RED. All I could see was red, and the feelings of fight or flight. The…
I was betrayed not only by my husband but also by my friend. To have to work through two betrayals is the hardest thing I have ever been through. You sat with me on my couch while lusting after my husband. When I left for work, you came over. You even slept in my bed…
You know how the saying goes, “If only I knew then what I know now.” I often wonder if knowing the warning signs of where and how affairs begin and develop would have protected and saved my marriage from an affair. Would my husband have been equipped to fight his impulses? Would he have talked…
What are boundaries? Simply put. A boundary is a line that shouldn’t be crossed. Period. We set boundaries in marriage to protect ourselves and our relationships. Every relationship can have a different set of boundaries. Before an affair occurs, most people, including myself, don’t even know what a boundary is, let alone how to set…
Hope for a better tomorrow lightens the burden of today. Never stop believing. Tomorrow will be better than today. – Olufunke Kolapo Yesterday marked 5 years since I found out my husband was having an affair. It’s crazy because while it can still feel like yesterday, it also feels like it was a lifetime ago. I…
Do you want to heal and rebuild your marriage? Do you want to show that you can respect your wife and still love her? Rebuilding love after an affair is a difficult journey. But not an impossible one. It requires commitment, vulnerability, and an unwavering desire to repair the damage. This blog post will explore…
When faced with the aftermath of an affair, you may find yourself at a crossroads of whether to stay or leave. It’s during these moments that asking questions can be a way to guide you in whether or not you can rebuild trust with your partner. I remember having hundreds of questions for my spouse…
Experiencing infidelity in a marriage can be incredibly difficult. Some days it’s hard to muster the energy just to get out of bed. It’s a critical time for the affected partner to nurture themselves and implement self-care for healing after betrayal. When you practice self-care strategies, it can help you cope. Infidelity affects every part…
Did you know that your marriage can find healing after an affair? The answer is YES, IT CAN! My husband and I are a walking testimony of that. Five years later, and by hard work and the grace of God, I can say we are still standing. The love we have for each other is…